"Love is never any better than the lover. Wicked people love wickedly, violent people love violently, weak people love weakly, stupid people love stupidly, but the love of a free man is never safe. There is no gift for the beloved. The lover alone possesses his gift of love. The loved one is shorn, neutralized, frozen in the glare of the lover’s inward eye."
"Time and maturity are of the essence; it could be easy to compare someone you've known for a few years to someone you've known for only a few months. The longer you know someone, the more you see their flaws. Someone you've only known for a short while would look much 'better' because you simply haven't been exposed to all their flaws and weaknesses yet."